There
and Back Again by Adam Papadolias |
Like many Greek-American boys, I learned the bad words first. Otherwise, my first steps into Greekness were limited to soccer, wrestling, and my father and his friend half-joking about some sort of deal concerning my brother, me, and his friend's two daughters. My first leap into my heritage was in 1978 when my father took me to Kollines, his home-village near
Tripolis. I was an eight year old reading Tolkien's folkloric classic The Hobbit during our trip to Greece, so I found much in common between the settings of the novel and the hills where my father grew up. Every day I rode the donkey down the slopes to the tiered pools of water that magically filled back up by the next morning after we'd spent all day watering our gardens. My father always checked for snakes before reaching in to unplug the pools. At sunrise in the foggy mountains we'd eat fresh bread, pick figs off the trees, and drink coffee. The purple mist covered more than the wild and the next town in the distance; the brave firmament hung over a history beyond half my genes, for down in the valley still rested a type of museum: the old house of my father's childhood up to the night the Nazi army invaded and burned down the village. We do not live in places like that house as long as they live in us. After we've washed the soot from the walls off our fingers, we can still see the blackness of that night during World War II even if we weren't there. It was the place my grandmother fled with my aunt Georgia and my then three year old father, and they hid in the hills for months. I've often tried to imagine the mindset of a child hearing the adults warn each other the enemy was coming. I can see my tiny grandmother pack up and grab the kids, and I know from the way I was raised that even then my father probably never whined or cried about being hungry, cold, or tired as he left behind everything he knew as home. It was the place I first pulled the trigger on my Uncle Pete's bulletless gun, envisioning the enemy where once had been windows. Seeing the old house and holding the pistol were rites of passage for me as was my first full glass of wine. I proved myself a natural with grapes although I didn't fair so well when it came time for Ouzo. My brother was the lucky one; he got to brag about finding the scorpion in his bed. My greatest heroic feat was the capture of a lizard using a hangman's noose on the end of a stick. The worst thing that happened to me in Greece was when my grandmother found my super-cool 1978 cut-off jean shorts with soft, frayed fringe as wavy as the Mediterranean, and she . . . hemmed them! Then we came home and the only time I was ever Greek at all was when I met other Greeks from other wrestling teams. They were usually friendly kids but, like I was, a bit serious. We were not on the dance floor what we were on the wrestling mat. Maybe our center of gravity was too low, or perhaps we were just too grave. Not until my first year as a public school teacher did I ever contemplate dancing, and it was not a Greek style. An Ojibwe student invited me to a Native American pow wow, a dance gathering, where I was simultaneously overcome by both awe and loneliness. To watch and hear a celebration of ethnicity and heritage with such dazzling colors and thunderous sounds left me a spectator on the outside of their circle. In spite of their repeated invitations to come down and dance on "inter-tribal" songs, I was afraid to fail, be alone in front of people, and look stupid. I envied their unity and how their loved ones had worked for years on their dance outfits to make them look beautiful. I was also facing being twenty-four years old and going out into the singles scene, where the thought of dancing in front of prospective significant others simply mortified me. By day I would preach self-esteem into students, but by night I would practice little of my own. I kept going back to pow wows, and at twenty-eight I made my first grass dance regalia with a new best friend, who happened to be an Ojibwe artist and the first of a few Native Americans to adopt me into his "clan" even though I wasn't what they call a "full-blood," a "half-blood," or even the notorious one-eighth Cherokee. Nevertheless, the grass dance fit me. It originated with one boy who was not like the others; being white in a mostly red circle was the least of my differences. The style's originator had suffered a bad leg and couldn't dance like the others, but he saw the tall prairie grass swaying in the wind and made up a new style, which today is known as a medicine dance for healing his leg. For seven years now it's been healing my shyness and nurturing my self-confidence in the pow wow circle, around the Midwest, down to New Mexico, and eventually back to my origins. As silly as it may sound, My Big Fat Greek Wedding did have something to do with me finding Orpheus. When a subculture hits mainstream film, bridges go up. Right away my friends wanted to know if my father used Windex as a panacea. No, he used olive oil. Then they insisted I teach them Greek dances, but I didn't know any. While taking classes in Irish ballads, Mariachi, and tabla at Old Town School of Folk Music in Chicago, I saw that there was going to be a big fat Greek dance seminar. I half expected to be yelled at a lot, but Gianni and Kostas only said, "Look up! You stare at the floor!" Well, we had these two big dogs and a big yard when I was a kid, so I made a habit out of watching everywhere I walked, but I guess it's time to hold my head up. Just as I was nervous about joining the Native American dance circle, I felt a little odd when I first walked into Orpheus, but being a half-blood was easy after being a no-blood. You could say that Greece has since flooded my blood. I work every week on reading and speaking Greek, and soon I will go see my cousins in Athens and find my father's village, Kollines. Will the dome of the church with its murals look as high and historic as it did when I was eight? Now that I can read Greek, I want to see the cemetery and find the rest of the Papadolias clan. Getting to know Greeks has been a journey in itself. What do I like best about Orpheus? The dances? Yes, especially Zonaradikos. The music? Yes, especially Kalamatiano. The teachers? As a teacher myself, I know that there is no student more difficult to satisfy than another teacher, and I hold Gianni and Kostas in the highest regard not only for their dancing but also their ability to motivate, explain, be patient, and keep lessons fun. Above all, I like how Greek dances, music, teachers, and students form a community. When we're all together and the head and tail whip inward on Zonaradikos, it's as if I get flashbacks of my dad's village sweeping into the hills together, surviving together. Though the night is cold and the enemy is coming, we're hot and we tug each other along. Like the hobbit I was reading about the first time I went to Greece, I hope to go "There and Back Again." |
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Spotlight on Orpheus Dancer... |
Vicky
Melahoures |
Hometown: |
Chicago, IL and Orange County, CA I consider both home. |
Parents/Family From: |
My dad is from Agio Petro, Kynouria, Arcadias |
Occupation: |
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Time Dancing with Orpheus Group: |
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Thoughts on Dancing: |
One of my true loves! I’ve been Greek folk dancing since I was six and still going…! |
Favorite Dance: |
Anything Cretan and Pontian…I like the energetic and powerful ones! |
Most Vivid OHFS Memory: |
The Halloween party my sis and I threw last year and how Demitri “Mitso” Dallas came dressed as Giorgo Kotso (an instructor from Greece) with jacket, towel, cigarette, mustaki and all! |
Favorite Greek Dish: |
Bring it on, I love ‘em all! |
Favorite Place in Greece: |
The island of Kriti with Santorini coming in a close second. My horio outside of Sparti is always a good time, too. |
Hobbies/Sports/Other Interests: |
Dancing (of course), traveling, cooking, theater, movies, volleyball, rollerblading, pool, and going out on the town…, wherever that town may be. |
Nobody knows I... |
visited Castle Dracula in the Carpathian Mountains of the Transylvania region of Romania…it really does exist! |
Best Childhood Memory: |
Competing in the Folk Dance Festival (FDF) every year while growing up in CA, and visiting Yosemite National Park every June with my family, where we’d go white water rafting. |
Dream vacation/the perfect weekend: |
European road trip…, but it doesn’t really matter where I go, just with whom. |
Favorite building/spot in Chicago: |
Michigan Avenue; where I live. |
I'm currently looking for/forward to: |
my summer in Greece and participating in the Folk Dance Festival in San Diego, CA this coming winter. |
I stay home to watch: |
“Smallville” and any George Lucas, Francis Ford Coppola, and Quentin Tarantino movies. I’m also into classic comedies. |
Prized possession: |
My health, my family, and all those who are close and always there for me. |
Where I heard about Orpheus Dance Troupe: |
I saw the group perform at the St. Peter and Paul Church Festival and joined shortly thereafter. |
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12/31/2012 05:45 PM